Who’s mother is driving them up the wall with pregnancy advice you don’t need to hear??
Query by puoL: Who’s mom is driving them up the wall with pregnancy suggestions you do not require to hear??
I am 24, married, and almost five weeks pregnant. We told our dad and mom yesterday. 1st she drills into my head, “will not clean out the litter boxes” she pretty much yells at me. i’ve talked to vets and i’ve heard from doctors the only way that is negative for you is if you try to eat it! I will wash my freaking hands and keep my mouth closed!! then she calls about 9pm. “are you in bed?” me:no here: “properly you need rest it is past nine” me: mother i am a large girl (24!!!) i will go to bed when i am tired! she also does not want me to consume caffinated drinks (i know also considerably is poor) but she also doesnt want me to drink any carbonated drinks. wtf?? my mom-in-law tells me to try to eat my vegies, drink my milk, and consider my vitamin. I really feel like I am five once more. any person else go by way of this? will it ever quit? what do i do? I’m an adult and i am intelligent sufficient to take treatment of my system the way i should when i’m pregnant. Need to i just notify them that? i stated something related but it did not genuinely sink in i dont feel…
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Answer by newborn on board Feb 19 08
i have that dilemma with my MIL…she preached to me about anything even if she told me the same point 10 instances. I check out to remind myself that i know shes only attempting to aid, but these hormones dont aid so i get pissed off anyway. lol I dont notify her nearly anything but i get it on my bf
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Too funny, I just posted a similar question, regarding unwanted advice and comments. Maybe you can sit your mother and MIL down and explain to them that it’s driving you crazy (maybe not in those words) and see how that works. Or, you can do what I’ve been doing, and just ignore everyone and vent to your husband and the YA community – SMILE. I feel better after venting. You can’t control your mom/MIL b/c they’re in parental protection mode. Everyone else, you can say something to them.
I guess I’m a lucky one so far. My mother checks in on me everyday but other than that no she doesn’t do that yet. It’s just something some mothers do. Just explain that you have everything under control and if you need advice you will ask for it.
Mine!!! My husband and I are actually living with my mother right now, we were leasing a house and our lease was up before we could close on the house that we are purchasing, so we have been with her for 3 weeks, we’re moving out next weekend because we close on the house this week. (Thank God!!) I can’t do laundry, I can’t get my own milk from the fridge, I guess because the baskets and gallons of milk are too heavy…she is nuts! She stands over me to watch me take my vitamins. She came to my first appointment- and then when I scheduled my 2nd- she was like “Well, i don’t know if that will work for me..” I had to set her straight right there! It was horrible! She is still nuts about lifting, me wearing heals, and other things! I know your pain! I’m 20, married and have 2 step children- I’m fine! I appreciate the advice and help, but geez…it’s a bit much!
I’m 23 with two kids and one on the way. Yep, same problems. Every time I talk to my mother she tells me what questions I should ask my doctor and that I should call her and tell her what he said. She’s always telling me how to raise my kids on top of that, and she’s full of old-wives tales and swears by them even though I tell her it’s BS and she can argue for hours. Just do what you know is best for yourself and don’t listen to them. Let them know that you appreciate the advice, but they can keep it to themselves untill you ask them for it.
My mother lives 3000 miles away (all the way across the country)…I’d give anything to have her here driving me up the wall with unsolicited pregnancy advice…so take it for what it is and let your mom mother you…she is only concerned about you health and well being and that of her unborn grandchild…
HOWEVER my husband sister is driving me nuts with her ridiculous and unwanted advice…she can’t even get her 10 yr old (spoiled rotten) child to stop wetting the bed and she’s telling me what bottles to use and what daycares to consider? I don’t think so!!
that’s exactly why I didn’t tell my mother until I was 12 weeks. Even then she tried to still tell me what to do and check up on me, so I brought her to an appointment with me and the doctor told her that she needed to ‘chill out’
congrats!
I had the same problem with my MIL… Then, I made my husband talk to her about it. It was totally worth it. Just talk to them, tell them you’re doing okay and if you need anything, you’ll be sure to ask. Let them know you’re taking your doctor’s advice and everything is going great.
(We would go to my in-laws every Sunday for dinner and my MIL always would talk about how bad caffeine was and I shouldn’t have ANY… SO, every Sunday we’d show up and I’d make sure I had a bottle of Coke with me, just to spite her. Haha.)
yes my mom is the same way it drives me crazy. She’ll literally take things out of my hands and throw them away if she thinks it’s bad for me (a cup of coffee, a salad with blue cheese dressing); and she freaks out about this like going to scary movies because “it’ll scare the baby”. Also apparently if I drink anything with aspartame I’ll get cancer and die. She even calls me and tells me I’m “not allowed to go outside” when it’s Icy or snowy out because I could fall. Uhm, I live in colorado, it’s January, so basically I can’t leave the house until mid-april if it was up to her.
I’ve talked to her but she doesn’t change. I try to just pick my battles and avoid doing things in front of her if I can. But sometimes you just have to stand your ground and when she says “oh my god, you can’t reach over your head like that ! you’ll make the baby’s umbilical cord wrap around it’s neck” or “if you don’t get enough beta-carotine the baby will go blind” or whatever craziness they come up with that day; just nod and go right on doing what you’re doing.